One day, if someone gets up on the right side of the bed and calls me and says, "You are
the greatest person on earth. You are doing a great job and I want you to know I am
honored to call you a friend," I know he is sincere. How does it make me feel? Great. But
the next day, he gets up on the wrong side of the bed, picks up the phone and says, "You
rascal, you cheat, you crook! You are the biggest fraud in town." How does it make me
feel? Terrible.
So the first day when he says "you are the greatest guy," I feel great and the next day
when he says "you rascal," I feel terrible. Who is controlling my life? Obviously, he is. Is
that the way I want to go through life? Not at all. That is being externally driven.
I want to be internally driven. When he calls me and says I am the greatest guy, it is good
to hear those words. But even if he doesn't say those words, in my own estimation, I am
still a good human being. And the next day when he rips me apart, he can't really,
because in my own estimation, I am still a good human being. When people make
statements like, "You make me angry," the focus of control is external. But if I say I am
angry or I choose to be angry, the focus of control is internal.
No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.
--Eleanor Roosevelt
There is a story about an ancient Indian sage who was called ugly names by a passerby.
The sage listened unperturbed till the man ran out of words. He asked the man, "If an
offering is not accepted, who does it belong to?" The man replied, "It belongs to the
person who offered it." The sage said, "I refuse to accept your offering," and walked
away, leaving the man dazed. The sage was internally driven.
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